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Well hello there. It’s been another good long while since I last put something on here.  Not a lot has been going on.  I’ve been working and that’s about it.  OH, I did get myself a new puppy.  Her name is Stella Stella Bo Bella and she’s gonna be a man-eater.  LOVE HER!  Swarley is getting used to having her around.  Sometimes its ok, others, not so much.  Like today.  I want to kill them both today.

Enough about my doggies.  They are not the reason I’m writing tonight.  I’ve decided to write about something that is really bothering me today.  That thing is cheating, cheaters and those who the cheaters cheat with.  I’m not currently being cheated on because as you all know, I’m single.  It was just something I started to think about.  So here are my jumbled up random thoughts on the subject.  And I warn you, this will be ALL over the place.

First off, I have absolutely no respect at all for any woman who sleeps with or carries on a relationship with a married man.  SHAME ON YOU!  Marriage is a sacrament and is a vow taken before GOD.  Who the hell do you think you are to come between that?  I don’t care if the man sought you out or not.  I don’t care if at first you didn’t know about it and by the time you found out you were oh so in love and couldn’t leave.  SHAME ON YOU!  As SOON as you know that man is married you should take off like your ass is on fire. 

And don’t even get me started on the “my best friend got married but I love him/her still and their marriage isn’t a good one.”  BOO FREAKING HOO!  Get over it.  They are taken. If they wanted to marry you they would divorce their spouse and marry you.  DO NOT even attempt to start a relationship with them until they are DIVORCED!

I get more upset with the men and women who are the unmarried part of the relationship.  If they don’t know the person they are seeing is married then OK, you don’t know.  Not your fault.  The married man or woman you are seeing is scum.  Now, if you find out or started out knowing the other person was married, well there is a special place in hell set aside for you. Again, HOW DARE YOU.  I don’t care what your reasoning for keeping the relationship open it’s still beyond wrong.  You KNOW that person is married and you still continue to see them?!?!  How messed up are you?  How screwed in the head do you have to be?  It’s disgusting. 

I’ve never been married so I don’t know what it’s like to have that marriage torn apart by infidelity.  I do have my own story with this subject though.  There are two actually.  The first one gave me the same blue lights in the rear view mirror feeling you get when you are getting pulled over.  About 6 years ago I met a guy in a bar.  His name was Roy.  Roy was really sweet and very cute.  When he was leaving he asked for my number and I gave it to him.  We talked a few times but never did meet back up.  About 8 months after that I got a phone call from an unknown number.  “Hello?”  “Is Maggie there?”  “This is she.” “Hi, why is your number in my husband’s jacket pocket?”  “…………”  My heart dropped.  I had no idea who I was on the phone with and I had no idea whose husband I have my number to.  I asked what her husband’s name was and it was Roy.  I spent the next 30 minutes explaining that I had no idea he was married and that NOTHING had happened.  I went over and over it for her because even though nothing happened I still felt awful because he was married.  Thankfully she believed me but I still feel bad about that.  I thought over and over again that night that maybe if I had looked closer I could have seen where his ring should have been.  It’s silly for me to think that.  I did nothing wrong.  But I still feel bad because I’m a good person. 

My other story is about me being cheated on.   Not gonna tell you which boyfriend that was.  I know a lot of you will think it was Brian but don’t.  I’m leaving this dude anonymous because it’s not important who it was.  The only reason I’m telling this story is because I never confronted the (I wanna call her a woman but she’s not) thing that was talking to my man inappropriately.  The thing is he broke things off with her before I ever found out.  So what did she do, she sent me a message on MySpace.  LOL   Does anyone still use MySpace?  Anyway, in her lovely little message she told me how she was there, how she had always been there.  She said she knew how good it felt to be loved by my man.  She told me that the reason for her writing me was not to hurt me.  It was to keep her from ever going back to him again.  PUH-LEASE!  Are you serious?!?!?!  This has been pissing me off since it happened years ago.  This is where I start talking directly to her so excuse me.  SCREW YOU!  The ONLY reason you wrote me was to hurt me.  You wrote me to let my boyfriend was talking to you. Thank GOD there was only talking.  You wrote me to HURT me so that I would leave him and he would be yours.  HOW SAD AND PATHETIC ARE YOU?!?!? This is the type of person I despise.  This person knew that the guy she was talking to was in a relationship.  She knew.  SHE….KNEW.  I honestly feel sorry for that sad pathetic sack of horse shit.  How miserable are do you have to be to send a message to the guys girlfriend?  Now some of you may be thinking that she did the right thing.  Had she only told me that she had been talking to him then yes, she would have done a not bad thing.  It was HOW she did it.  It was what she said.  So very sad.  And she’s probably still in love with him.  I don’t want bad things to happen to her…really I don’t.  And this will be the last time I think about her.  The reason I wrote this is because I’ve kept it in for a long time and never told her this.  I wish I had. 

I’m so sad that people continue to cheat.  At some point in your relationship with the person you are cheating on, you loved them.  You loved them enough to marry them.  If for some reason you fall out of love with them have the decency and respect for the love you once had to tell them and leave before you cheat.  It’s really very simple.  RESPECT.  That’s all. 

I pray that no one I love ever feel the pain of being cheated on.  I pray that my loved ones are in loving committed relationships that are built on honesty and respect.  I pray that one day I myself will be in the same kind of relationship.  It will happen for me.  I know it will.  I’m too good of a person for it to not. 

On a happier note, I’m happy.  I love myself and I’m working on some things to make myself a better person.  Updates on that later kiddos.  🙂

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